So last week’s column was about the differences in what men and women want in sex. The idea is that when it comes to sex, we are not always looking for the same thing. Supposedly, many women feel that their sex lives lack affection. The story goes that guys are happy if they get oodles of sex, but for women to be happy, there has to be lots of emotion and affection in the sexual relationship. I decided to put that theory to the test. With girl sex. I figure that if the theory holds, sex with a woman should be warm, very affectionate, with lengthy foreplay.

Not so. My favorite woman lover phones me when she’s horny. When that’s the case we meet, usually at my boyfriend’s place. As soon as I open the door, her lips are locked onto mine. She starts ripping off my clothes and kissing me all over. Necking, we make our way to my boyfriend’s bed. She pulls me in, on top of her. She guides me down to her breasts, her stomach, down to her pussy.

She pushes my face into those soft, wet folds, and I lick her till she moans with pleasure. Then, I swing my hips around and plant my pussy on her mouth. We lick and bite and suck, our breasts rubbing, our pussies grinding into each other’s face. Afterwards, she kisses my face and mouth, which are dripping with her juices. Still on my stomach, she slides underneath me and starts licking me. When I am just about to come, she puts on her strap-on and starts doing me from behind, kissing my neck, rubbing her tits on my back while at it. I love it and it does not take long before she makes me scream with orgasmic pleasure.

Then, we lie down together to have a drink of wine in my boyfriend’s bed. Then she gives me a quick peck on the cheek, and she’s off. The whole thing takes an hour tops. It is hot, passionate, and quick. No terms of endearment, no sweet nothings. Just full-on, hard sex.

Of course there are women who do want lots of time, affection and warmth too. Take my other girl lover for example. She loves lengthy foreplay, lots of talking, touching and kissing before getting down to it. I’ll tell you about her next time. But still, I figure the theory that men want hard sex while women are looking for lots of emotion and affection in their sex lives is wrong. I think my man was right all along- how we like it depends more on the kind of person we are than on our gender.