My guy and I have tons of sex. In fact, sometimes that’s all we do. He doesn’t have much time, but can always find time for sex. “Priorities, sunshine” he’ll say when I ask how come he never has time for anything else. He pretty much rips off my clothes as soon as I get into the door and off we go. Again. He is stuck on my body, and can’t keep his hands off of me.

That’s all good, right? Well, call me crazy, but there’s something about it that irks me. Not him though. He’s easily pleased. Sex is good if there’s lots of it- the more the better. For him, like for most guys, it’s the quantity that counts. I like lots of sex too, don’t get me wrong, but quantity is not all. Hot passionate quickies are great, but in my ideal (and non-existent) world, they are mixed together with affectionate, loving and caring sex that makes you feel that yes, you are one hot piece of ass, but he cares about you in other ways too.

When I talk with my girlfriends about sex, I often hear them complain about the same thing. Their sex lives lack affection. Their guys are happy if they are getting oodles of sex, simple as that. The women

expect a tad more. For them to be happy, there has to be lots of emotion and affection in the sexual relationship.In a nutshell, women want to have sex for love and intimacy, to feel understood, validated and cared for. Hey, red-hot quick and dirty sex is great, but for women, at least the ones I know, there’s got to be, at least from time to time, some sweet, loving and caring sex. She likes to be reminded that the guy she’s with thinks about her in ways that go just a little beyond her ass. Quick and dirty only goes so far for her. For guys, well, what can I say? Sex is a bodily function for them. They want sex to”release sexual tension.”

Of course, it’s possible that men simply think that sex is the same as affection. But I doubt it. I think I’m going to give sex with a woman a try.